I post on this blog as a student of leadership; one who is nowhere close to having it all figured out, but intentionally walking in that direction. I understand that it’s going to take many years and many tears to get there.
But, where, and what, exactly is this “there” that I’m going? How will I know when I’m there? How far aware am I?
Well, I must confess to you now that there is one particular roadblock that I am having trouble getting around. And, since I know everyone loves a good scandal, I’ll lay out all the juicy details.
A Leadership Inventory: How Do I Rate?
But first, let’s look at a few of the attributes normally found in a good leader – and compare with how I currently see myself. A leadership inventory, if you will:
- Healthy concern for their people check
- Willing to invest in self and then others check
- Desire to put team goals ahead of personal goals check
- Gives recognition where due check
- Operates as a coach to help others reach their highest potential check
- Sets goals and holds accountability check
- Builds and maintains healthy and productive relationships with many check
As you can see, I’m doing pretty good. Obviously, I am not a master in any one of these areas, but currently make every effort to practice these concepts.
Are you paying attention???
Ready for the dirt???
… EXCEPT with individuals I don’t particularly like. Gasp. Shock. Awe. Disappointment.
Not The Way of a True Leader
I know, I know – I feel the same way about it. There are a couple of specific individuals in my life who I just can’t seem to choose to handle the way I know I should.
Now, I know this is not the way of a true leader. I mean, WWJMD (What Would John Maxwell Do?
As a growing leader and student of leadership, and as a Christ follower, I should take these opportunities and use them as potential breakthrough or growth moments. Instead, I typically avoid the situations or the individuals and continue to build a case file containing all the reasons why I just don’t like them.
I am keeping score. And I know I shouldn’t.
Where Would A True Leader Go From Here?
Is it possible that a true leader wouldn’t find themselves in this predicament? Maybe. But, here I am – and I owe it to myself and, maybe more importantly, those specific individuals.
I continue to read a lot in effort to learn from a few very smart and seasoned leaders. Sometimes I even pray for ways to better handle these situations. However, I know that a prayer is only as good as the action I am willing to take toward what I am asking for.
God won’t just magically fix it because I ask and therefore have no part in the resolution.
Three Small ‘True Leadership’ Steps
With that in mind, I can take these three small steps in that direction:
- DECIDE to make the effort
- FOLLOW THROUGH with the decision to make the effort
- HAVE A JOYFULL HEART so that can make a genuine effort.